I’ve read several books lately that have been addressing the idea that you can say yes to the things that matter most and let go of the things that are less important, or maybe don’t hold value for you. I think we all want to believe that there is a best practice for utilizing our time. And while I would love to tell you that there’s a one size fits all instruction manual for how to use your time best to do those things that are the best options, or most valuable for you, I can’t.
There are so many things that are always pulling at our time.
Our kids, husbands, chores, books, television, working out, church, Bible studies, sports, etc. Everything vying for our attention and time is enough to make a person feel slightly crazy. I know that I can commit to so many things that I begin to feel like I’m crazy because there’s no end in sight to always being busy. Always doing more.
I fail to stop and rest. To take stock of what’s really going on in my life and evaluate if it’s actually worth my time and worth the effort to say no to other things that matter in order to say yes to one more thing.
Let’s be honest for a second here.
When I spend all my time engaged in a million activities… book launches, Bible studies, church events, cleaning projects around the house, play dates, and so on, I fail to stop and enjoy the moments. I fail to enjoy the time with my daughter, just getting to know her and teaching her new things. I miss out on so much because the activities are always calling my name.
Just today, Sarabeth got up from her nap and was hungry, so after a couple of quick snuggles, we made our way to the kitchen where she proceeded to eat some of her popcorn from her little shelf. Rather than busying myself with the dishes (which needed doing) or any other small task that might appear to be needing to be done, I chose to sit on the floor near here and chat. While she may not actually carry on a conversation with words yet, she can be incredibly expressive in other ways. And taking that time out with her allows me to get to know her just a little bit better.
Don’t miss the little things.
That time on the floor with her lead to making dinner together, and pulling up a chair for her to work at the counter beside me. She spent most of the time just eating her peanut butter cracker, but when I would walk away to grab another spice or work on another task from dinner, she would reach for the spatula like she had seen me do and tried to mix the chicken on her own.
It was a first for both of us. And if I hadn’t taken the time to pay attention to what was going on with her, and seen the interest in her eyes as I was working, I never would have thought to bring over a chair and let her “help” me at this early age. I would have missed the special moment because I was too busy saying “no” and not paying enough attention to say a little “yes” that made for a very special moment for both of us. Saying yes doesn’t have to be a big thing, it can be as simple as inviting someone in to the simple task you’re doing.
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It’s a matter of the heart.
For me, busyness is a sign that I’m hiding. I’m hiding from something I’m scared to follow through on because I’m not sure how it’ll be received. I’m hiding from something I’m scared to admit in myself because then it will require more work internally. I’m hiding from something because I’m not ready to admit that things aren’t working quit as well as they should.
Busyness shows me what’s really going on in my heart. The more I do, the more I’m running and hiding. I say yes in order to avoid, rather than dive head first into what’s really going on. Hence my need to focus on presence this year. The need to practice recognizing what’s really going on and dealing with things head first rather than hiding from them.
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I’ve been hiding from a few things lately.
It’s not always easy to admit when you’re running from things. But in the interest of transparency and letting you really see how I’m working to build my legacy, I thing the honesty is important.
I think this blog is incredibly important. I think the idea of creating a legacy that you are glad you are leaving behind is important… and I think God thinks the same thing because it keeps coming up in every single book I begin to read.
But it scares me to. It scares me because I know the message is so much bigger than myself. The importance is so much bigger than me. And God has placed some incredible dreams on my heart. Dreams that have to do with this blog and where it’s headed and what it will end up looking like. And that’s scary because it means jumping into some things I’ve never done before. It means stepping out of my comfort zone and trusting that God is going to keep me from falling. He’s going before me in this venture, and I have to trust his leading rather than hiding from it.
There are some tools that I am beginning to build which will hopefully help you begin to process and build your legacy into something you are glad to leave behind. I can’t wait to share them with you when they are finished.
For now, if you aren’t following us on Instagram, you may have missed the little mini series I did on the 5 W’s of a Legacy Lifestyle (aka…who, what, where, when, why and how). I really encourage you to go and take a look. If you have more questions or information on any of the questions, shoot me a message or leave a comment! I’d love to be able to dig into your questions and really help you build your legacy lifestyle as God is showing me how to build mine!