Let me start by asking you a few questions
Do you like to be in control?
Do you always have to be right when you’re in an argument with someone else?
How often do you let someone else’s decision be your course of action?
Do you always have to be first?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you struggle, just like me, to let someone else lead you. To let someone else call the shots and direct your path.
This might be one of the hardest things in the world for me. I like to be in control. I like to know what’s going on. Where things are going. And I like to be the one doing the leading. I fail to stop and ask questions. To get a sense of the mood in the room.
I think some of this relates to being first born. I’m used to being the first in line. I’m used to jumping in and doing.
And even now, having a young child at home, I am the one leading her. I am the one guiding her towards meals, bath time, dictating diaper changes and the clothes that she wears.
But I can’t lead every aspect of my life.
I have to be in submission to my husband. And most importantly to God.
I can’t even begin to say that I have any big “a-ha” moments or information here for you. What I do have is experience from my own struggle in letting God lead.
But I can meet you here in that struggle.
For most of my life, I have taken the reins and tried to lead my life myself. I make my own plans, and expecting everything to go my way. But every time that I have made plans for myself, without bringing my plans to God, things go seriously crazy. And often, my heart took a serious beating in the process.
So, I’ve had to let myself learn to step back. I’ve had to try and take a back seat in making plans. I’ve had to really seek out God’s plan in this journey.
I’m learning to hold things loosely.
When you are moldable, it is much easier to be led.
You have to be attentive, because a slight change of movement from God could be the change in direction you are supposed to take.
I think of a pair of professional dancers. Yes, they practice their moves over and over again. BUT, the female must always be letting the male lead. From my minimal understanding of formal dancing (let’s be honest, all I know is learned from Dancing with the Stars and So You Think You Can Dance), is that the female cannot appear to, or actually take over the dance at all.
In this scenario, no matter who you are, in some relationship in your life, you are the female dancer. Whether God is leading you, a husband, a boss, a pastor, or any other situation where someone may be leading you, you have a situation in your life where you need to be paying attention to the cues given to you by another.
I think there something to the idea of practicing the moves over and over again.
We are able to stick to a routine and we follow through on things better when we have established a routine. When we have muscle memory leading us back to where we need to be. So, while having a humble heart and letting someone else lead you might not be easy, the good news is that we can try again and again until it gets a little easier each time.
That’s the beauty of this journey with God. We can continually try and try again until it starts to get a little bit easier and we do a little better each time.
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