I’ll be honest and say that this blog might be one of the hardest that I’ve tried to write in a long time. In fact, I started writing it a few weeks ago and ended up writing an entirely different blog. We’ve spent four weeks talking about leadership and some of its key characteristics. And when I sat down to write about leading yourself, it morphed into an entirely different blog post. So, now I try again…
When I think about leadership, I almost always think about leading others. I forget that leadership starts with myself. It starts with looking inward and determining if I am actually living out the things that I say I’m going to do. Can I follow through on the things I have determined I want to do?
Here’s what I know. In my own life, I end up sabotaging myself nearly as soon as I set out to change something. I give up on myself, and in the end, cheat myself out of something that could be great.
Ask yourself these questions:
What was the last thing that you wanted to change in your life?
Now tell me, did you succeed in changing that habit?
If you didn’t succeed, what stopped you from succeeding? If you did succeed, what helped you push through?
What’s your WHY?
I hear people all the time saying that in order to finish the task that you set out to accomplish, you must figure out your why. You have to decide on what is driving you. You have to decide what motivates your desire to change.
This is where leading yourself becomes important.
Leading yourself means believing in yourself. It means following through on the tasks that you set out to accomplish. Leading yourself means caring for yourself.
If you can’t lead yourself well then you can’t expect to be considered a good leader of others.
Here’s what I mean
In this Legacy Lifestyle that we are trying to live out, there are many habits and things that I want to change. I want to leave a legacy for Sarabeth that I am proud of. In order to be able to achieve this, I have to be willing to make necessary changes in order for those habits to become permanent.
One of the biggest things I want Sarabeth to see in me and know about me is that I am a student of God’s Word. Which means that I have to be consistently in the word every day. I would love to say that after 30 years of being alive, I have a routine established. And I actually get time in the Word every day, but I don’t. I always start a new routine with good intentions, but I end up failing because I let life get busy and in the way of my ultimate goal.
To lead myself well…
As I am learning to lead myself well, I’m learning that sometimes that means making things work around what you need to accomplish those goals. So each night, I think through the next day and what it’s going to look like. Most of them start the same, and I am able o get up and have my quiet time in the morning while Eric takes care of Sarabeth. Some days, when Eric’s schedule is a little bit different, I have to reorganize my thoughts and my plans for the day. But I still make time in the word a priority.
And perhaps, as I continue to lead myself well and prioritize the goals that I have for myself, they will become habits and second nature and I won’t have to think about them so much. When that happens I will know that it’s time to set a new goal and work towards another change I want to see in my life. Part of leading yourself well is knowing how much you can take on. And what you need to let go of.
The more honest you can be with yourself, the better you can lead yourself.