The holiday season has just wrapped up and I hope you had a memorable time creating memories and having a great presence with each other, not just presents. One thing that our extended family does when gathered together is puzzle. Puzzling is not something I particularly enjoy or excel at but to many it is a great way to relax, converse, and work together to problem solve and create a beautiful picture. The key I have learned to puzzling is a good plan on how you are going to complete the puzzle. I recently learned there are two different ways to attack puzzles. The first, which is what I normally have done, is to start with the border. The creates a framework and knocks out a chunk of pieces from the get go. The other way of doing things, I learned this holiday, is to just pool pieces of the same color together and work to piece those together. Either way, you have to start somewhere with a plan and then move forward. Someone has to lead the group putting the puzzle together.
Who do you lead?
We already have looked at the most important section of leadership, leading yourself. That is the first step needed in your leadership development. But say you have a personal plan, are working consistently on it, and are wondering what’s next? The next step or group are those that God has called you to do long term life with together, your family. Now these may or may not be people that you chose or want to be involved with on a regular basis, but the fact nonetheless is that they still are there.
Husbands you are the rock and backbone that your wife and kids, if you have them, need. This is one thing I have learned the last few months but continue to learn in a great capacity. I am called to lead them, even if I don’t know how, I am still responsible to lead. So what do you do then, if you’re like me and at times are unsure of what’s next?
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Is there someone you look up to in that role? Ask them for help. Even just an hour a week or even month of time with them can go a long way in helping your development if your time is focused and intentional. There also are a lot of podcasts, books, and articles online for help in developing how you want to lead your family. As with everything be discerning with any advice or knowledge you glean. Each situation is going to be different so there is bound to be some adaptation that needs to take place.
But I’m Not a Guy…
Now you may be single and/or a woman and be thinking, “Eric, that’s fine and dandy for those guys, but what about me?” To you, my message doesn’t really change, just where you turn your focus to changes. You can lead your siblings, cousins, nieces, nephews, and yes even your parents. Each of these different scenarios of course has its own differences but that’s life. Each individual person you meet will be different and require different things at a different pace and sometimes a different form of the same message of love, truth, and grace. Use yourself to showcase that gospel to your family, whoever they may be. Be The Proof for them to see.
In case you missed any of the #BTPLeadership series, click HERE to see what you’ve missed!